I describe our life as a life full of goofy goats, fresh country air, starry skies, a dear husband, great kids, a garden that’s too big and a sustaining faith. More Here.
You can tell me -- does that sound corny? An imperfect world yet I am generally happy :) I'll even go as far as ridulously happy. I'll blame my faith for that! I don't need to look very far to see the many blessings around me -- including DH (dear husband).
With Valentine's Day on the wings, I thought it only fair to give a little thought to my other half. (p.s. I love this quote - doesn't that describe a little heaven on earth?!)
We hang out together - a lot! Nothing like bonding over hoof trimming, fence fixing, and apple picking! That is said only a tad bit tongue in cheek. There is something wonderful about physical work and the rhythm of working side by side without having to say much. It sure did take some work to get to this point, though. When I first gave DH "helpful ideas" of how to do projects around the farm, it wasn't well received - at all. He thought I was telling him what to do in a "man's area of business". I felt that I had a vested interest and should have some say how.
What I wanted - "To be heard"
What he wanted - "To be respected"
In the end, we found out that he really did just need to let me babble and I was happy with whatever decision he made. Because I know, he made the best decision at the time with the information he had. I respect that and make a point to never say "I told you so..." He and I both learn from the mistakes so being right is really unimportant. And he now seeks my opinion or even more far-fetched ... he occasionally HEEDS my advice. Don't worry, he's not getting soft. He will never admit that I came up with the idea aloud.
This is us ice fishing!
Not to mention, things running smoothly really isn't that interesting, is it? No spice of life there.
The camping trips we talk about weren't the "nice trips", but the one where we forgot the tent and slept outside on the ground until the mosquitos drove us to our vehicles for a quick trip home 3 hours away in the middle of the night to get the forgotten equipment.
Or when we were determined to finish our fencing project on hot humid day over 95 degrees, getting overheated, making stupid mistakes and having to do each step multiple times, tripping over our feet until finally we look at each other and realize we're stumblin', mumblin' like a couple of drunks and it just wasn't worth it! (but we were too miserable at that time to laugh about it...only later...)
Or when it's blizzarding...(isn't he lovely...blazing a path for me. We do blizzard chores together cuz they're no fun for anyone!)
The stuff our marriage is made of is based on a whirlwind courtship of less than 7 months from first date to wedding day! No one was more surprised than I was, as I had ZERO wedding plans in any near future after graduating from college! But we just fit -- two imperfect halves making a wonderfully lumpy whole.
It really wasn't much of a risk. After all, he's the type that talks to goats.
or takes the mini horses camping and for walks...
And now I'll be pleasantly surprised for Valentine's Day. Somehow, he remembers something that I said I like something months ago and months later he'll find it for me. A bottle of Choco-Wine, a CD of Mandy Patinkin,...hmmmm...and this year...
May your relationships be blessed! With much love from Jay and Penny